Hope all is well, wishing your families are safe. This weeks post maybe classed as a bit of a rant lol. Sorry not sorry thanks for joining me again. Please let me know your thoughts in the comments. It’s nearly All Hallows’ Eve how are you celebrating!
Am a single lady yes I am, single mother to 3 beautiful 🤩 sometimes naughty babies lol. Let me make this clear am single by choice and today I’ll tell you why.
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Single And Happy!
Why am I happy to be single? it’s a choice it gives me time to concentrate on me finding myself, mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually. Am free to express my opinions without worry about another persons perception of what I say or do. Choosing to break up isn’t easy but I do it I find it better than settling for shit I don’t agree with, ain’t following no one’s rules who can not live nor abide by the rules they lay out for everyone else.
The reason I’ve chosen single life is simple when you’re with some men. The shit they do ain’t normal. While they have a lot to say about how you should dress how you should walk eat and fart. With that being said let’s get into the types of men I’ve dated/ spent years with no I don’t hate all men I don’t think they’re all terrible but here’s why I’m single at 32.
Types of Men I’ve dated / Been with!
So I had the narcissist, who had magic powers powers his powers made me feel an always wrong when he was hurting me. The man who pretends his all great and holy it’s never his fault, every argument he uses the things you share with him to tear you down and break you.
Deflecting rather than addressing his mistakes making you the devil he’s the victim while his woman is the predator. You won’t win with a narcissistic self loathing individual. So I stepped away from that. They will never see you and accept their wrong as all they see is them they will ignore you and your feelings. Use the link to help spot signs of Narcissism.
The partner that never asks for help but always needs it and never turns it down especially when money is being offered. I tell you this that’s a users they never have and when they offer it benefits them not just you this is a Finacal abuser and I will tell you this now it may seem small and we all say we ain’t giving men our money but when you are in “love” these things can happen so when I see or suspect this is happening am gone BOOM 💥 number changed MIA.
You just need to protect what you worked to build For advice and information on Finacal abuse take a look at this link! See me I ain’t a man hater and these are my personal experiences so am not sorry yes am single and proud.
My man was so jealous he hated even my friends well one of them lol call me a whore good for you I’d rather be a happy hoe dump a waste man so jealous but then his shagging everyone on road oh ok.
I see your a Jealous Cheat bye bye boo boo. Tell me what to wear who to talk too finding all sorts of negative things to say about me or my friends then that’s a No Go 🙅♂️ get yourself another woman billions of us on this planet am not listening to no one talking down to me everyday mental and emotional abuse is what this is while your being manipulated used abused by someone who is probably suffering from low self esteem. Suggest you choose being single too lol if this is happening to you.
Then we had the one who would punch, slap talk down to me nope not sorry years later his still a physical abuser who hits women. I’ve had 5 proposals, never divorced nor Married Am glad I’d probably be dead marrying any of those men.
Pathological lier I’ve been with such a man who believes his own lies he would lie on children never mind me as his baby mother.
I have three children THREE BABYFATHERS ON PURPOSE I will never have multiple children for no waste of space the gap between my children shows you that I’ve tried to find a good partner but I want children more children. I will not settle for being hurt nor hit.
No man who cheats on me lies on me don’t provide while talking down to me. I am showing my children love of themselves while loving others so I step away for anything that’s not good enough for us.
Am I happy?
Yes I am that’s all I care about, my babies are looked after I work hard everyday for us all. The things I do aren’t just for my children this is why sometimes parents have regrets I live for me the choices I’ve made where for me as well as my children. I love being a single mother this is the longest I’ve stayed single 3 years and counting now. Yes I’ve linked boys am 32.
After spending years with the wrong man cooking cleaning 🧹 working with them and being hurt now am exploring myself I am not sorry after being used taken advantage of I now love myself, I stand by all my choices I am a proud black single mother. I don’t cheat lie nor abuse others however am not afraid to protect me & my babies.
Things I’ve learned about me!
I like to meet new people, yes I love working because am confident people assume I speak to a lot of people I do not. However now I’ve started too speak to new people and more people!
I love sex however I recently found out I’ve been settling for crap sex for years from the men I’ve been in long term relationships with so not only was I being abused I wasn’t even being sexually satisfied by most them lol.
What a joke, I love being a mother every bit I was wrong to think I wouldn’t be good enough for my children because I am more than enough they told me that.
I can say no to the things I don’t like even if it makes other people sad. I love Sam smith and Ed sheeran yes I do I also love clubbing haven’t done much of it but I will start lol as I got some sick moves. Life is for living I’ve also learnt that and this is the most important lesson I’ve learnt while being single how to LET GO OF WHAT IS OF NO IMPORTANCE OR OUT MY CONTROL.
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P.s you amazing single mothers or not stick to your choices. Xoxo 💋
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