Hey, hey how is everyone doing. I hope you and your families are all well, safe and contented. It’s been a little while since my last blog, I’ve been going through some things surrounding my mental health as you all know am a schizophrenic I had a relapse in health and had to take some time out to process and rejuvenate whole healing my mind, body and spirit. I recently took a overdose so have had a lot to deal with am not 100 but am gonna try getting back to what I love doing. So here goes this weeks blog is all about over investment of ourselves with others.
Let Me Say This
Sometimes it’s best to reserve investment of our emotions Or time in people until we get to know them. Until we test each other to make sure it’s not an overcompensation, making sure the positives outweighs the negative.
We should all help each other, support and encourage on another, however helping is to give another the tools in order to do the work themselves. There is a difference in supporting and carrying others.
No one person should take on the main roll in any relationship, weather it friends family or a partner. Sometimes we aren’t at our best, life throws it’s shit at us all so we all need support and help at some point or another, weather it be a word of encouragement or a helping hand.
Learning Lessons Aren’t always Easy
What we need to make sure is we aren’t putting in more than we get out of the situations we are in. Over investment in the wrong person emotionally can ruin your LIFE!
The fact is it takes an effect on us mentally and physically every time we have an emotional reactions the chemicals sent from brain to body is a process it takes energy. So you have your bank accounts right? think of it this way if you keep debiting money from your Accounts but never pay any money on you end up with a 0 balance Right?
Same with your Emotions if your giving a lot to others and not spending time on you nor is anyone else you become drained fed up and tired. We must invest in our own emotional bank so we don’t come up Short after giving time to others.
I have had three children with three different baby fathers this was a choice I made after coming up short, after being cheated on beating and left to take care of my children almost single handed little support from only a few people.
This is the lesson I learnt after calling friends day in and out but them not really being there for me nor my children. I learnt I must stop investing in those things and people who have no regards for my well-being I have schizophrenia I live with anxiety and paranoia everyday but some don’t even text.
When I took my overdose two months ago the sad fact is I could count the people I trusted on one hand and that showed me I was over investing emotionally in the wrong people, yes it made me mad, emotionally that I wasted my time and angry that they treated me this way.
This lesson I learnt was harsh the lesson that those I’ve invested in emotionally and physically used my relapse for personal gratification. After think I don’t even want to talk about what happened with some of the people we know As I don’t even trust half of them.
The people whom I trusted that only helped to say they helped not out the kindness of their hearts it made me bitter but I learned to stop compensating things, people and irrelevant situations to invest my emotions in me and my babies.
To not seek approval or support from those ripping me apart emotionally directly and indirect. ❤️❤️❤️
Now it’s week 4 since that happened am not fully back but am coming back I live with my condition day in and out I know Am strong and this won’t brake me. So my advice is to invest in YOU BEFORE OTHERS.
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