Hey guys It’s yours truly Crystal. So how are you doing wishing all is well. Today’s post has a age rating and sexual orientated topic so NO ONE UNDER 18 should be seeing this one. It’s a new week. Thanks for joining me again, your support is appreciated. Now with that being said, Let me know how your week has been so far. Am looking for bloggers to #collaborate with so please get in touch. Praying your children have all been well, Oh yeah enjoy your read today!
So let’s talk Sex, ladies and gents. Sex while single, & living with a Mental health disorder, it’s good to have a healthy sex life. Being sexual active isn’t only good for our moods, but our overall motivation level increases while we’re sexually active. We preform better, excel in our fields, our moods improve with a healthy & active sex life. There has been studies after studies that link a active, sex life to success. Those who engage in regular sexual active are more positive towards their day great sex is talked about by some of today’s successful individuals, presidents, singers, writers even Doctors.
Yes I am a single mother of three children I am not encouraging anyone to be having sex with multiple partners, however just because we are single mothers doesn’t mean we have no needs, just because I have schizophrenia doesn’t mean I don’t get aroused. Always practice safe sex as safety is the key to enjoying intercourse, getting to know your sexual partner, this will help with being turned on, MAYBE so turned on you can leave the lubricant out of it tonight, 😜 ( Just joking) it turns me on more when I feel safe and secure.
I know that as a mother especially because I BREAK up with GUYS easily, I get judge about who I have been with how long I’ve been with them or how many boys I’ve been with it’s no ones business I know but it happens. As I see life as long as I am happy I will celebrating being free from abuse and control.
Sleeping with Lots Of Men?
Says who why is that the perception that if your single, admit you have sex, some automatically assume we have multiple men/women we sleep with. Also while being single personally if am not being satisfied then yup I’ll probably be moving on. I spent all my adult life thinking I was having great sex.
YUP YOU SAW THAT RIGHT! THINKING I WAS HAVING GREAT SEX!. Then I had my baby who was diagnosed with sickle cell disease I left my job shortly after that, then I broke up with her father just like my other children’s fathers. Oh by the way I have 3 kids 3 different baby fathers by choice yes I know them all just wouldn’t have multiple children for any of them.
After having my daughter having a nasty break up I decided to do what I called “Dirty 30’s” I realised all I knew of sex was from the years spent with these men, so I started to experiment not just with A man but with toys am bi sexual so I slept with 2 girls also while being single which I fully enjoyed.🤪 I have been exploring my sexual likes and dislikes.
I have finally experienced A orgasm that’s when I realised I wasn’t have the GREAT SEX ALL ALONG. I just started to not enjoy but love SEX. I didn’t know what I liked I didn’t spend time experimenting, exploring I spent years from the age of 15-22 with one partner then so on and so on until I was 30 which is when I became single. It’s been 2 years now 32 this is the longest I’ve been single AM LOVING IT.
I am seeing someone we meet at our convenience, when my babies are asleep. We also go out to movies watch films at home sometimes j just speak his 27 our sex Is always better than the last time. The more we Fu)k the better it gets. I can talk to him about every and anything, share my work most importantly we can speak about my mental health he understand if I need space also I respect when he needs his time to do him or why he has to do! It’s been nearly a year on and off seeing this one guy, however because of my dirty 30 venture I’ve also broken his trust. (Another story for another blog perhaps) 🧐
I did mention I was trying dirty 30!
so I had to get a bit dirty lol so to speak. Let me explain I messed about a bit, I once had an affair with a married man I felt so guilty I couldn’t do it anymore. I didn’t want him to keep calling me as I felt bad for his wife their children I didn’t want trying to be with me, or contacting me anymore so I had told his wife he tried to have sex with me. Maybe I should have told her the truth but I couldn’t bring myself to say it. She was disclosing how he had cheated on her, so it came out the way it did.
Now am not saying it was a great decision but am talking about what I did, I am glad the I told her they stayed together I am not sad about it nor am I jealous, I know that’s not for me breaking up a home or sleeping with someone’s husband. I was having a a relapse in my mental health so I started to go out socialise this is the best thing I did also. ( slept with someone’s baby father this one I don’t regret) I don’t think regret is always best Also here is where am the baby mother was doing things that involved me that I didn’t find cool. This is the first time I’ve written this. Also full disclosure in this here blog.
( IF I HAVE OFFENDED ANYONE I APOLOGISE BUT THIS IS my story) xoxo 😘
Mental health & Sex!
Sexual activities can benefit you in a great way when suffering from mental health. The feeling of isolation is helped by having someone to talk too, someone who is there for you so when we have a partner or Sexual partner that we can trust who isn’t taking advantage of you it helps us.
It helps with depression, and in some cases anxiety. Take a look at this study many people speak about mental ill health but not alongside sex. Am a schizophrenic, being on my own for long periods of time doesn’t help me, when I am having sex I feel human I feel well I don’t think about the voices or my hallucinations I get lost in the feeling, the sensations & the emotions which are intense.
I had a lot of issues sharing my mental health issues with other people, especially my partners but I found sharing my health issues with someone whom hasn’t been in my life for years and years helped me to heal and accept me for me.
Learning that there are men/women out here that wouldn’t use me. Who won’t mentally drain or emotionally abuse me helped me to trust. Helped me to accepting myself fully. I am not ashamed to be bi sexual, nor am I sorry about my mental health.
Now I take control of my life I don’t just agree to things to please others, I refuse to do things that make me sad while everyone else is happy. Why is it important to practice safe sex BECAUSE EVEN SOMEONE YOUR MARRIED too can cheat or in my case you can get a STI ( sexually transmitted infection from your baby father) so be extra careful with your sexual partners.
This is the most open I’ve been on here. I have more to add but will do this in my next blog, I want everyone reading this to love experiencing sex, enjoy learning about who your are and what you like.
🤩Please share, follow, like and comment. Don’t ever forget I value your opinion. Knowing your enough being single doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself, it doesn’t mean we aren’t open to love it just means we enjoy being with Us & aren’t lonely.
P.s if you want some advice on where to buy some sexy outfits send me a email or maybe you want to buy some sex toys I can help you. Weather your Gay, straight, married or single maybe your in a relationship sexual activity helps with our mental state of mind, exploring with your partner will keep the flames burning. Xoxo 💋 ❤️💋
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